Making funeral arrangements is simple with Arthur Jary & Sons
Our aim is to make planning a funeral for your loved one as simple, transparent and straightforward as possible for all the family.
Our staff will guide you through every step of the way sympathetically and practically from the first call you make to us to ensure the funeral reflects your lost loved one exactly.
Registering a death
On the 9th September 2024, the process by which a death is registered changed. All deaths are now put before the Medical Examiner, who must speak to the family and the doctor who has issued the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (MCCD), before the death can be registered.
The Medical Examiner will notify you when the certificate has been forwarded to the Registrar, so that you can then book an appointment to attend. At this point, you have 5 days in which to register the death.
This can be done by attending the Registrar’s office in person by appointment, or by declaration at any other Registrar’s office in England or Wales.
If there is to be a Coroner’s Inquest, the death cannot be registered until after the inquest has taken place. The Coroner will usually open and adjourn the inquest and issue a certificate so that the funeral can take place.
You will need the following details required by the Registrar:
- Full name of the deceased
- Home address
- Date and place of death
- Date and place of birth
- Last occupation
- Date of birth of surviving partner
- Details of the deceased person’s husband / wife / partner
- If female, her maiden name and, if married, her husband’s full name and occupation
The Registrar will issue:
- Certificate for Burial or Cremation (or the Coroner will issue a Certificate for Cremation or an Order for Burial)
- Certificate of Registration (form BD8) for DSS purposes
- Certified copies of entry in Register (for which a fee is applicable)
The Certificate for Burial or Cremation issued by the Registrar, or the Certificate issued by the Coroner, will be sent to us digitally in most cases, meaning there is nothing more that you need to do. If the Registrar issues you with a physical certificate, we will need that to be passed to us at the earliest opportunity.
Registrar Office Information
For Norfolk
The Registrar: The Library, Tolhouse Street, Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, NR30 2SH T: 0344 800 8020 for an appointment
The Registrar: The Archive Centre, County Hall, Martineau Lane, Norwich, Norfolk, NR1 2DQ T: 0344 800 8020 for an appointment
The Registrar: 18 Kings Arms Street, North Walsham, Norfolk, NR28 9JX T: 0344 800 8020 for an appointment
For Suffolk
The Registrar: 2 Canning Road, Lowestoft, Suffolk, NR33 0EQ T: 0345 6072070 for an appointment
We understand that every funeral is unique
No funeral is the same.
A funeral is the opportunity to carry out the special wishes of the deceased and his or her family to pay tribute and remember the contribution and impact of the person lost.
Your loved one might have left special requests or you might want features of the funeral that are different to the norm – a woodland burial, perhaps, or a motorcycle hearse.
We can work with you to ensure any special requests are honoured.
What happens after you contact us?
Once we have received your instructions, we will make contact with the church, clergy and authorities as required, and complete all the necessary paperwork and pay the resultant fees on your behalf.
If you do not wish for a religious service, we can arrange for an appropriate alternative and work with humanist and civil funeral celebrants. You might like a family member or a friend to say a few words and choose your own order of ceremony, content and music.
Whichever you choose the Minister or Celebrant will contact you to discuss the service and music you might like and talk you through your choices.
Visiting your loved one in the Chapel of Rest
You are welcome to visit your loved one in the Chapel of Rest by appointment.
You might want to place small personal items in the coffin, such as photographs or other mementoes and choose clothes for your loved one.
Some people like their loved ones to be buried wearing items of jewellery they have always worn and were precious to them. Others like to remove jewellery and wedding and engagement rings to keep to wear themselves or pass to family members.
It’s personal choice and entirely a decision for the family but please talk to us about anything you’d like to put in the coffin to check for restrictions especially if there is to be a cremation has been arranged.
We are here to support you to do whatever you are comfortable with and what is important to you.
Death notices and funeral announcements
We can handle these for you, placing funeral announcements in newspapers of your choice and helping you with what you’d like to say and how you would like to say it.
These announcements allow you to publish details of the funeral and let people who would like to go to the funeral know any instructions about flowers or donations to any charity in place of flowers in memory of your loved one.
These notices also serve to tell people about the death who might not know otherwise.
Flower Arrangements
Again, flowers are a very personal choice and should be whatever you choose.
They can be as big or small a part of the funeral as you wish. Your loved one might have been a keen gardener, so you’d like to incorporate garden flowers into the funeral or even on the coffin.
If you wish to have flowers, your florist can deliver floral tributes to us, or we are happy to collect them from the cortege address.
Please let us know if you are expecting a large number of flowers at the house so we can allow sufficient time.
Tributes placed on the coffin should be no taller than 8 inches, to prevent them being damaged by the roof of the hearse.
If there are several floral tributes, we normally list them for you. The cards will be left on the flowers unless you give us alternative instructions.
If you choose a bamboo or wicker coffin, flowers can be woven on the outside and through the handles.
Music
Increasingly, families like to have music played in the church or the crematorium that was special to their loved one.
Usually, you can choose music to be played entering and leaving the service, as well as hymns or music during the service.
With the person officiating, we can advise and guide you through music choices. Please feel free to talk to us about any special requests, however unusual you might think they are.
Order of Service
Again, it’s increasingly popular for families to produce an order of service with a favourite photo of the deceased.
Our staff can help you organise this, together with whoever is going to officiate.
Eulogies
Often, families are keen to have a eulogy, a personal account of the memories of the deceased, an account of his or her achievements, triumphs, likes and dislikes during the service.
This is a chance for someone who really knew the deceased to outline and celebrate their life and personality.
We can give guidance on putting a eulogy together, how to structure it, material to use and how long it should be.
You might want grandchildren to read a poem, or for another friend or family member to say a few words.
Whatever your wishes or those expressed by the deceased please discuss them with us and we will do what we can to help.
Donations
If you opt for donations instead of flowers, we are happy to receive instructions from you and collect the donations on your behalf.
We usually keep the donations account open for four weeks after the funeral and send you a full list of names of those that have donated before sending them to the charity.
We make no extra charge for this service, and even include it on our Simple Funeral.
On the day of the funeral
Our limousines each hold six people. We have booster seats for children – please let us know if you will need one. If you have a car seat for a younger child, please let us know. We would ask you to fit this yourself.
It is worthwhile deciding on seating arrangements for the cars, where supplied before the cortege arrives on the day.
On arrival at the church or chapel, the Funeral Director will first enter to advise both the Clergy and the authorities of our arrival. You may then be shown to your seats, or you may follow the coffin in. After the service our drivers will return you to the pre-arranged address.
Health & Safety
Under the Health & Safety at Work Act 1974, we have a duty of care to our staff. This means that sometimes we will need to convey the coffin into the Church or Chapel on a wheeled trolley. There are many reasons for this, for instance, the size of the Church or Chapel. You may rest assured that we always maintain the greatest dignity possible.
GDPR & Privacy Policy
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